(You can find an update on my decision at the bottom of this article.)
As you may know, my husband and I started a podcast for “marriages in general,” but some of the episodes could trigger betrayed spouses. (Some might not get this, but Jay and I have been told that the way we’ve been interacting after our healing was painful for them to witness, and I don’t want to risk that with you ladies. I’ve heard this about other couples on summits as well–that the contrast between the healed couples and the listener’s current state caused more pain for the listener.)
So I need your input on how to notate the episodes that are safe for betrayed spouses.
I’ve been wracking my brain to figure this out, and here’s what I’ve come up with:
Star – Putting a ” * ” at the front of the episode description or at the end of the title, so you can easily see it, but this can cause confusion, as in “Does a star mean it might trigger me or does it mean it’s safe to listen to?”
Safe – Putting “(Safe)” at the front of the episode description or at the end of the Title, so you can easily see it, but it might cause outsiders to ask questions, as in “What does safe mean?
Safe for Betrayed – Putting “(Safe for Betrayed)” at the end of the episode’s description, but if the description is wordy, I think a button would need to be pushed to see that notation.
NSFB-Since NSFW is widely understood (as “Not Safe for Work”), I could put a NSFB (“Not Safe for Betrayed”) notation at the front of the description or in the title, but again, this could lead to a lot of questions about what that means.
Above – I could explain any of this in the overall podcast description at the very top of the podcasting page, but I’m not sure how many read those fully.
Music – Having the safe ones start with different music, but this can cause confusion too.
Blog – Listing ONLY the safe ones on my blog, but betrayed women would see all the episodes–safe and unsafe–on iTunes, etc.
For now, I’m leaning toward a “(Safe)” notation somewhere in the description, but I am open to suggestions, which is where you come in.
What ideas do you have? Or which of the above would you prefer? Feel free to answer in the comments below.
After weighing the options and input given in the comments and through email here’s what I’ve decided:
If an episode is safe for the betrayed, it will have “(S)” after the episode number. There will also be a description of what this notation means in the description box.
Even so, please listen to your gut instincts and stop listening if any episode begins to feel uncomfortable.
Thank you all for your input. It really helped to know what would be most useful to you.