I’ve always thanked God for the female friendships I’ve had. But today I realized something.
I am specifically grateful
those friendships are low-drama.
Tension doesn’t exist with those women. Sure, at times they have drama in their lives (that’s when I get to be there for them), but the relationship between us is calm… peaceful.
Sometimes we differ on how porn is dealt with in our relationships, but that’s where we agree to disagree… without it leading to a cat fight or breakdown.
When I look at it, most of my female relationships are that way. Maybe it’s because I’ve been selective in those I allow to come close. Maybe it’s because I’ve allowed myself to let go of bad friendships. Maybe it’s because these are reasonable ladies who work to better themselves. Who knows.
And the fact that most of my friendships are low-drama speaks to the kind of life I want to lead, which is probably why I fought so hard to establish a peaceful marriage. Again, who knows.
But I do know this: I wouldn’t have been able to handle it if my friendships were as shaky and fragile as my marriage during those years. Those ladies provided a safe, unhindered place for me to turn when I was really hurting. I would have been completely on my own if a black-cloud hung there too.
I’ll keep an eye out for that as I continue to expand my friendship base:
Peaceful, low-drama relationships with women.
It’s a good thing.
A big “THANK YOU” to my girls out there. You ladies are awesome!