Last night was my third time as a panelist on Michael Leahy’s BraveHearts Webinar. Again, the attendees asked some great questions.
Last night’s content for partners of porn users included a great question from an attendee:
“Don’t I have a right to ask where he’s been and
what he’s been doing–
don’t I have a right to the truth?“
I answered it last night and thought I’d answer it again here: Do you have a right to know what he’s been doing?
Short answer: Absolutely!
A year or two into the most difficult part of our healing, a realization hit me square in the face: “I have a right to know who I’m married to.” This realization told me I did have a right to know the truth.
But even though this was a right we gave each other at the altar, the way I went about finding the truth would make or break us.
So that’s one of the things I help betrayed partners with: I help her walk that fine line between requesting his honesty and being demanding, because I don’t want her shooting herself in the foot.
But there’s more to it.
When I felt I had to drag the truth out of my husband, it was a big sign that something was off—way off. The ideal situation is when the guy will freely offer that information, but it takes a lot of fine-tuning to get a couple to that point—especially when there’s already been a lot of breakdown.
While it takes patience and courage, couples are doing it!
Other great questions from last night’s audience:
-What’s the difference between fake and genuine recovery?
-Can a father mentor a son?
-Michael also mentioned who were the easiest guys to mentor. (I was floored by his answer.)
If you’re interested in more information like this, or if you need answers, feel free to join us:
-Tuesday, Jan 31 at 2PM & 7PM (ET)—My husband will share how pornography almost ruined his life, and how he has over 6 years of freedom.
-Wednesday, Feb 1 at 2PM & 7PM (ET)—I will share the impact of my husband’s betrayals and lies, but also how I regained my sanity, then improved my life and relationship beyond the betrayal.
-Thursday, Feb 3 at 2Pm and 7PM (ET)—Jay and I will discuss how we brought our relationship from the brink of divorce to feeling like newlyweds again—and why this was crucial to his sobriety.
Here’s what you can do:
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