Increasing Your Pain (Video) – 2.03S

Messages we receive like, “Aren’t you over this yet?” “It’s just porn!” “It’s your job to forgive!” probably come from well meaning people who are striving to alleviate your hurt.  But some messages only become new sources of pain–new ways we feel betrayed by people we thought we could trust.

This episode covers that topic, and we also talk about how the Betrayal Trauma Model got its start.

TOPICS COVERED (The timestamps follow video and will be several seconds early on podcast):
1:02 The beginning of Betrayal Trauma (Origins)

2:37 Why close relationships hurt so much

4:02 Inherent dynamics in the relationship that can cause Relational Trauma

4:22 Different types of betrayal (and what they look like)

5:39 Societal betrayal – The messages she gets from society

7:07 “Whether or not you have a problem with pornography… this other thing IS betrayal.”

8:16 Betrayed by people we turn to for help

9:17 The messages addicts get… AND the messages the partners get

10:20 “I thought we would be a united front…”



The podcast is here. (It may take a couple hours for it to show up on iTunes, etc.)

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