Something I’ve seen in women (and has been confirmed by therapists) over the years leads me to post this:
Be careful about shutting down to your pain;
you may be shutting down to your joy also.
It was definitely true for me.
It’s probably easy to know if you’ve been avoiding the pain in your relationship, but also look closely at your life: Have you had much true joy, lately? Have you been having to fake your happiness? Is there a truth inside you that you keep trying to bury under food or alcohol or shopping or (like me) busyness?
Then ask yourself, “Am I ready to have my joy back? Is it time to get my life back?”