Can He REALLY Recover (without much outside help)? – 5.02S

Can an addict get sober without a lot of outside help? While it can happen, this video dives deeper into this question. We’ll also cover some basics about what addiction recovery looks like.

0:00 Intro
0:07 Question: Is it possible for my husband to be 90% recovered if he’s never been assessed and hasn’t done much recovery work?
0:30 Has he become a new kind of addict (and how long recovery can take)
1:24 A Basic definition of recovery (and white-knuckling)
1:44 The guys who sober up quickly
2:14 The bigger work of recovery

https://thecouplecure.com – Jay and Lori’s website
https://pornpainhealed.com – Lori’s site for betrayed partners
https://porniskillingme.com – Jay’s site for porn addiction recovery

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice

He Goes to Shame and Depression (what can I do?) – 5.01S

Have you ever brought up how someone’s actions caused you pain–only to have them go to shame or depression? What can a woman do in that situation? That is the question covered in this video.

0:00 Intro
0:07 Question: I can’t bring up my pain or things I need to recover or he goes to shame/depression–so what can I do?
0:31 A real disorder or emotional extortion?
0:58 Solution: one way to tell which it is
1:17 If it is a severe depression (or somewhere in the middle)
1:55 If he doesn’t read
2:20 Jay’s answer (the man might be repulsed by himself)
3:30 The value of working in groups
3:27 Solution: two things you can tell the addict

https://thecouplecure.com – Jay and Lori’s website
https://pornpainhealed.com – Lori’s site for betrayed partners
https://porniskillingme.com – Jay’s site for porn addiction recovery

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice

When Marriage Counselors Divorce (Season 5 intro) – 5.00

In this video, we discuss a difficult topic, so if you’re not up for that right now, feel free to come back later. But it’s happened often enough over the last several years we thought we would cover it. And that hard reality is this: marriages in this particular helping community have been ending, or there’s been hidden relapse. It’s a serious topic, but we strive to give you some hope.

Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
0:10 How this season will go
1:41 Marriages in this field are ending (relapsing)
2:17 Jay’s sobriety/our update (how to help)
5:15 If that happened to us (recovery is more than the addiction)
7:46 Regarding those relationships that have ended
8:33 Our marriage therapists divorced
9:24 Solution: avoiding complacency
10:21 Solution: a critical step (healthy community)
10:55 How we strive to help
11:45 Lori’s answer to: It must be so romantic
12:33 What we hope to give you this season (have questions?)

https://thecouplecure.com – Jay and Lori’s website
https://pornpainhealed.com – Lori’s site for betrayed partners
https://porniskillingme.com – Jay’s site for porn addiction recovery

#betrayal
#relationships
#pornaddiction
#marriageadvice