How do I catch my husband…?

The question she asked was: “How do I catch my husband for the cheating man he is?”

I answered:

I have a very effective technique on my website, but before I get to that:

The first thing you need to do is… know you’re opening a very painful chapter in your life. Most women want to rush in and know all the details, and these details are usually much more damaging than they ever realized was possible.

How do I know this?  I’ve been watching it happen to women over the last 20 years, both in my own life and in the lives of others.

There are ways to go about this that will do the least long-term damage to you. (Contact me at lori [at] pornpainhealed [dot] com and I’ll look up to see who’s been trained to support partners in your area.)

I have a couple of articles that address  your question. The first one is, “What to do before getting to the truth,” and it has a link to the second article on how to get to the truth.

I also have a couple of tools (look for “Tool 1 and Tool 2″ on this page,) that I suggest women use when having the initial conversation.

But I’m not kidding… not begin well supported can make for a very long, traumatizing time of life when you begin addressing this issue. He will be resistant and he will probably lie, which will only make things worse, so you need to get help from someone trained in how best to proceed.

But beyond all that, my heart goes out to you. All the best to you as you start on this leg of your journey.