There’s a unspoken debate in our culture about how much time and effort a woman ‘is allowed’ to put into her looks. I am not going to address that harmful debate right now. For this article, my stance is this:
I just don’t want your partner’s porn use to make
you look worse than before you knew about it.
The healing process shouldn’t make you look worse either.
Another reason I address this: From what I’ve seen, your relationship may get worse before it gets better. Why? Because you’re going to be talking about the things that have been boiling right under the surface for years. They’ve been such hot topics you’ve avoided them because you knew talking about them would probably cause an instant fight—that’s how important those subjects are to you.
Well, now you’re finally talking about them, and the talks probably won’t go smoothly at first. (Later, see Footnote below.)
But even if you’re not talking about those important issues, that very fact probably shows.
NEGATIVE RESULT:
So, what do these things do to your face? One of the results is darkened under-eye circles. I’ve seen this happen to many women. And since I don’t want his porn use making you look worse, I am addressing the best remedy for under-eye circles I’ve found.
MY SOLUTION:
It comes from a makeup artist name Wayne Goss. He is the best makeup artist I’ve ever seen. His YouTube channel has 2.5 million subscribers, and in this video he gives five different ways to apply under-eye concealer.
I use method #1 on special days. On regular days I use method #4, although, my bags extend to the lower-outside of my eye (like his do in this video), so I extend the concealer in the shadowy parts under these bags as well.
I don’t use special sprays or brushes; just water on the cotton swab and a tapered flat concealer brush you can find in the cosmetics section of any store. I finish with a very light application of translucent powder to absorb shine.
SETTLING INTO LINES/MAKING WRINKLES WORSE?
There are many videos out there about how to keep the concealer from settling into lines, making us look older than we really are, but I don’t have to do those extra steps anymore. Why? I’ve found a couple concealers that don’t settle into lines.
This first one offers great coverage, and I found it at Sephora in my local JC Penny store. Because it’s kind of expensive for me I only use it on special days, so it lasts a long time:
I have a light to medium complexion with yellow undertones so the color I use is “Medium 1 Custard”, and it matches perfectly.
My other favorite can be found at most drugstores and superstores. It’s been called ‘a dupe’ for NARS’s product. It doesn’t settle into lines and is a great daily substitute for my budget:
I’ve been using the color 20 (Sand) for my light-medium yellowish skin, but it’s a little too light for me, even in the winter, so I may have to mix it with the next darker one for the summer months. We’ll see.
These concealers are neither thick nor cakey, and both are extremely popular and provide great coverage.
You can find both of them at a discount here:
NARS Radiant Creamy Concealer on Amazon
Maybelline Fit Me Concealer on Amazon
HOW TO FIND THE BEST COLOR:
How do you find the best shade for you? The way I found mine was to search YouTube for “Best under eye concealer” and watched the videos of those who had a similar skin tone, paying careful attention to what colors they selected. I also bought from places that had a great return policy (namely Ulta, Sephora, and Walmart) in case the suggested colors don’t work for me.
Anyway, I hope this helps.
Here’s to not letting this get the best of us.
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FOOTNOTE: My free guide, “7 Tools Women Rarely Find…” has a couple of hints that make it easier to talk with your partner about these ‘hot topics.’ If you’d like the guide contact me here, and I’ll send it to you.