4 Kinds of Guys (“can you just care?”) – 4.14S

In the continued conversation with Matt Fray, we cover a few different kinds of guys, including guys who get defensive, guys who fix, guys who ‘don’t get it,’ and guys who are teachable. We also discuss why Lori would say, “That’s not how relationships work,” and why Matt would say, “Can you just care?”

TIMESTAMPS (click on a time below to be taken to that section)

0:00 Intro
0:17 When he feels defensive, it helps to remember… / Secure Attachment
1:39 One Solution: Instead of “fixing it,” try this…
3:46 Good people can be bad spouses (“Can you just care?”) *
5:54 “He may mean well, but he just doesn’t get it”
6:36 One Solution: The word that may bring out the protector in guys
7:05 Learning & teachability (“That’s not how relationships work”) *
8:43 “But porn is okay!”
9:43 In the next episode: “What if he never changes?”

https://thecouplecure.com – Jay and Lori’s website
https://matthewfray.com – Matthew Fray’s website
https://pornpainhealed.com – Lori’s site for betrayed partners
https://porniskillingme.com – Jay’s site for porn addiction recovery


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