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Will it Take Divorce Before He ‘Gets It’? (when he hides this from you)- 4.04S
“Change doesn’t happen until it gets painful enough.” Is this true? If so, what does it look like? That’s what…
“Then Don’t Be Married” (keys to successful relationships) – 4.03S
This video gives some keys to successful relationships.
The 2 Things Men Need to Get Right – 4.02S
Here are the 2 things Matt feels guys need to do in order to save their marriages.
This is How Marriage Ends – 4.01S
Hear how one man says he ‘forced’ his wife to walk away from the marriage…
How to “Rage” Well (solutions for you)- 4.00S
The second half of this video explains how to “Rage at the Addiction” in a way that actually helps you heal more quickly. (Clicking on the timestamps below will take you to
He HAS to make this list (Step 8 and cautions for betrayal pain) – 3.08S
Whether it’s through betrayal, trauma, abuse or lying, addictions can cause a LOT of harm. This episode covers the first step to making it right, as well as what to do if you’re not ready take this crucial step in rebuilding trust.
He HAS to Give Up Old Tools (Step 6) – 3.06S
Porn addiction, betrayal and lies can wreck a couple. An addict has to be ready to release his old coping mechanisms. Jay and Lori also cover their experience with addiction and fear, as well as what surrender looks like. They also address the difference between Savior and Boss.
Timestamps:
0:00 Intro & Step 6 (Preparing for this…)
1:55 “Being entirely ready” means getting rid of ‘tools’ that help only me
3:08 Jesus appears to ask a stupid question but it applies to addicts***
4:52 But those tools have been effective in these ways…
5:18 Why it’s challenging (and how it’s played out in Jay’s life)
He HAS to Admit It (Betrayal Pain and Step 5 Cautions) – 3.05S
This Step is about addicts not lying to themselves anymore—and not hiding the truth about themselves anymore. It’s about getting real, and why.
In this episode we cover:
-Step 5 of the 12-Steps
-How Jay switched harmful addictions
-How there are different layers to addiction and lust…
He HAS to be Fearless (Betrayal Pain & Step 4 Cautions) – 3.04S
Withholding information (also known as lying) is common, especially with porn and sex addiction. That’s why this step is crucial to…
He HAS to Surrender All (12-Step cautions for betrayal pain) – 3.03S
Applying the 12-Steps to betrayal pain only causes more pain. Yet the 12-Step Program CAN be effective for addiction recovery.
This is because the treatment for addiction and lying is MUCH DIFFERENT than healing the pain and trauma of betrayal. They require different recovery programs.
So in this episode, we cover:
-Step 3 of the 12-Steps, and how to be careful if you’re trying to rebuild trust
-Surrendering all, and how God
Restoring Sanity (12-Step cautions for betrayal pain) – 3.02S
The addict’s ways are a type of insanity, and in order to get better, he has to depend on a Power greater than himself to restore him to sanity. A wife need him to do this, but even if he doesn’t, she can still be RESTORED!
This episode covers:
-Step 2 of the 12 Steps of Addiction Recovery
-Believing in a Power greater than ourselves
-The root of
Healing Betrayal Trauma, Abuse and Lies: One Effective Technique (Tons of Free Info)
One technique to calm your mind. Two reasons it works. And how God feels about betrayal’s impact on us.
Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
0:35 The Ice Your Hands Technique and the brain
1:50 PLEASE stay present to avoid frostbite
2:02 Lori’s experience with it in the past & the day of the recording
2:41 Why it helps #1